How to deal with Toxic People
TOXIC PEOPLE………( If you let them, will…)
Rob us of our dignity.
Destroy our self-confidence.
Increase our stress levels.
Destroy our morale.
Erode our self- esteem.
Foster negativity.
Decrease productivity.
Are toxic because they can get away with it and it works for them.
How to deal with Toxic People
First of all, understand that you are not alone when you are able to identify at least one toxic person you have come across in your life. This person could be a friend, a colleague, a family member, your boss – there are so many kinds of people who could be toxic. It is for you to identify the toxic person and stop allowing this person to hurt you or affect you in any way. It is for you to take action or he can continue to hurt you all your life.
You have the power to stop this person. All you have to do is to take charge of your actions and reactions. You have to understand that you cannot control the toxic person’s actions, but you have the absolute power over yourself – take a decision to keep away or walk away from him and don’t allow him to affect you in any way. The sense of freedom and liberation you get will be unequaled by any other emotion!
Always try to remain in contact with positive thinking people. Your thinking will be automatically uplifted and you will realize that positive people are a real blessing because of the positive energy they create around them. On the contrary, a toxic person can absolutely drain your energies and even your very sanity. Your own instincts will be able to identify a toxic person. All you have to do is to move as far away from him as possible. This is possibly the best and most rewarding gift you can give yourself!
Toxic people are sheer poison as they are very negative, whine for everything, are miserable and make others miserable, are jealous, totally inconsiderate, selfish and can’t think beyond their needs, abusive and even evil. They have tremendous capacity to hurt and cause pain and suffering to even their closest family members. Such people are easy to identify. Do you feel a churning in your stomach, feel nauseous or just feel you are going crazy? You must be in close proximity to one such toxic person! Once you identify him, the next step is to eliminate him from your life
What you have to understand is that toxic people have issues of their own which could even amount to mental illness, and their behaviour has nothing to do with you. What the toxic person does is to turn things in such a way that he makes you feel bad, guilty, and makes you think it’s all your fault. Once you realize all this, you regain your lost power and are able to take firm decisions.
Try to walk away from such a toxic person once you have identified him. Put yourself in a position where he cannot hurt you however much he tries. You have to allow yourself to be detached and not get affected by his words and actions. As soon as you do that, you will find that he no longer has the power over you. Once you master this skill, you become your own person and you become mentally and physically stronger. This way, you preserve your mental health too. You can achieve this enviable state of mind by repeatedly affirming to yourself that you are strong, in control of your own life and that you will not allow the person to hurt you in any way. The mind is conditioned to adapt and program itself and soon you will feel the healthy detachment that is necessary to make you a strong person.
Loredana Brondani
C.Ht, EPP
EthnoPsychologyst Practitioner,
EthnoMedicine (Psych.) Practitioner,
Certified Hypnotherapist,
General Counselling.
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