Zap the Sappers
How much time do you spend on improving your self-worth or your self esteem? If you are at all like me, you might find that all your energy goes on work, family and irritating administrative tasks. Some days are so hectic that it seems ridiculous to think about making time to nurture my self-esteem. Kirsten Long - Life Coach The truth is that every one of us has the potential for a higher self-esteem. No matter how successful you are, a little bit of extra confidence can go a long way. People with higher self-esteem reach their goals more easily; they are more optimistic; they have more energy; they are happier and more motivated. All in all, having a higher self-esteem makes life more pleasurable.
And yet, most of us have ingrained habits that erode away at our self-esteem. These bad habits are self-esteem sappers. Some of these sappers might be: arriving late, disorganisation, overeating, hogging the conversation, admonishing self-talk, spending time with negative people and watching endless TV. If you are on a continual self improvement drive, consider that this may also be harming your self esteem!
Unfortunately there is no pill out there that will improve your self esteem. Rather start by accepting yourself. Identify those energy sappers and decide which one has the greatest impact. Work on changing that one. Identify the sappers that are easy to change, and drop those immediately.
Just by taking some action to nurture your self-esteem can improve your self-esteem. By taking action you are showing yourself that you are important and that you count. You have the choice to make the difference in your own life. Choose to zap those sappers today.
Journal work A.
Let your pen take a walk in your journal. Complete this sentence and then write until there is no more to say…
I’m an OK person, but ….
Close your journal and come back to it 1 week later.
Journal work B
Look at what you have written in response to Journal work A. What beliefs are you holding onto that are damaging your self esteem? Ask yourself if they are true. If not, discard them by replacing them with more truthful, empowering beliefs. What evidence can you find in your life that the new beliefs are true?
Quotes:
I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ
Stephen Covey: Our character is basically a composite of our habits. Because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character.
And yet, most of us have ingrained habits that erode away at our self-esteem. These bad habits are self-esteem sappers. Some of these sappers might be: arriving late, disorganisation, overeating, hogging the conversation, admonishing self-talk, spending time with negative people and watching endless TV. If you are on a continual self improvement drive, consider that this may also be harming your self esteem!
Unfortunately there is no pill out there that will improve your self esteem. Rather start by accepting yourself. Identify those energy sappers and decide which one has the greatest impact. Work on changing that one. Identify the sappers that are easy to change, and drop those immediately.
Just by taking some action to nurture your self-esteem can improve your self-esteem. By taking action you are showing yourself that you are important and that you count. You have the choice to make the difference in your own life. Choose to zap those sappers today.
Journal work A.
Let your pen take a walk in your journal. Complete this sentence and then write until there is no more to say…
I’m an OK person, but ….
Close your journal and come back to it 1 week later.
Journal work B
Look at what you have written in response to Journal work A. What beliefs are you holding onto that are damaging your self esteem? Ask yourself if they are true. If not, discard them by replacing them with more truthful, empowering beliefs. What evidence can you find in your life that the new beliefs are true?
Quotes:
I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ
Stephen Covey: Our character is basically a composite of our habits. Because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character.
